In motherhood and on Mother's Day, the little things are the big things

Amanda Collins Bernier
Baystateparent Magazine
Moms don't need grand gestures on Mother's Day.

In my kitchen drawer there’s a tattered old cookbook, its pages splattered with grease and crusted with dry batter. I got “The Best Kids Cookbook” for Christmas in 1995, and I’ve used it on one day, every single year since then: he Lemon Strawberry Waffles on page 46 make their appearance every Mother’s Day.

The tradition started when I was a kid with breakfast in bed. My sisters and I would carry a tray piled with eggs and waffles and orange juice in a fancy glass into my mom’s room – and every year she’d pretend to be surprised. 

It evolved over the years. In college I found a way to sneak home and hide the waffle ingredients in the basement mini fridge. When Covid kept us apart, I did a front porch drop off. 

Over the years my mom has raved about those tangy breakfast treats, but honestly, they’re not that good. I always wondered why they seemed so important to her. Wouldn’t she rather something a little more luxurious? 

Now, four years into my own motherhood journey, I get it. For moms, a little goes a long a way. On Mother's Day, that old saying is true -- really, it's the thought that counts. 

Motherhood is a tiring and often thankless job, but moms want – and need – to be acknowledged. Sure, big presents and grand gestures can be nice, but sometimes it’s the littlest things that mean the most. After all, that’s what motherhood is: a series of little tasks and chores and responsibilities that string together into one big, important job. 

So don’t fret about getting some big Mother’s Day gift this year. We just want someone to notice that we wiped those boogie noses, we bought the favorite snacks, we made the dentist appointment and filled out the t-ball form. When it comes to motherhood and Mother’s Day, the little things really are the big things. 

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, whether you’re four months or forty years into your journey. May you feel recognized and appreciated in whatever little way speaks to your heart.