Whether you are married, separated or divorced, it is important to make the effort to encourage your children to celebrate their moms on Motherís Day. No matter how you may feel about your former spouse, it is important to show respect for the relationship your children have with their mother, and they should be encouraged to show their love and appreciation for the important role she plays in their lives.

A motherís job does not change after separation or divorce (though it may become even more hectic), and celebrating Motherís Day shouldnít change, either.

After divorce, the roles of husband and wife may end, but the roles of Mom and Dad should never go away. In their roles as co-parents, dads need to respect their childrenís relationship with their mothers.

Even if itís a handwritten card or your childís best effort to use crayons, the key is taking the high road and emphasizing to children that their Mom needs to know that sheís loved and appreciated for all that she does.

Here are some other tips and reminders for celebrating Motherís Day after divorce:


ē Plan ahead for Motherís Day (itís May 10, by the way). Try to make sure your children get to spend some time with their mom, even if itís not ďherĒ time on the parenting schedule. Be flexible (and moms should be flexible when it comes to Fatherís Day, too). Remember: This isnít your time. Itís about your children spending time with important people in their lives.

ē Help them make or buy a card or gift, or make special plans for their time with their mom. Remind children that Motherís Day isnít just about cards and gifts, itís also about celebrating ó and creating ó special memories.

While itís most important to have children spend time with their mom, itís also important to show consideration to grandmothers on Motherís Day ó including your former mother-in-law. She is still the childrenís grandmother.

ē If you or your former spouse has a new partner, follow your childrenís lead as to whether they want to do something for and/or include them in a Motherís Day celebration.

ē These tips also apply to moms when it comes to helping children celebrate Fatherís Day. After all, while divorce may end your relationship with your former spouse, it should never impact your childrenís relationship with mom or dad.

Article by Irwin M. Pollack